A child deserves to be more important to his mother than a dog. So I was unaware of the relationship. Come on! This morning I got up and fed the crying baby, as I always do, while my husband sleeps. Now he says Pancho doesnt like being fed in the bedroom, he feels like he has done something wrong. WOW. Like you said, there has to be some give and take and thats what youll have to do if you want to be with him and vice versa so you both and can happy. So, she did depend on them and treated them like humans (something she even admitted she has to stop doingtreating them like humans). so I was against them being out there while we eat, I needed peace! I am sure he would have me put pills in injections into my child if my child were allergic, before he gave up this dog. So, I have to follow him around to make sure hes on the right track. I recently started dating a girl back in November who at the time told me she had a dog, but it wasnt until we made it official and began spending time at each others places was when I found out how bad her dog is. She literally reduces the home value, all so she can run around and beg for food. I dont want to ruin our relationship over this. So, this can be the reason why your husband/boyfriend needs to get rid of the dog. Read my story and youll see what I mean. And ofcourse I would want them a good new home. I also have the same issue with my cat! She wasnt taught any manners. Yet I still try and compromise because I love her genuinely. He says he cant get rid of the dog bc it will upset his 22 year old adult son (who doesnt love with us & wont take care of the dog either)! He refuses to go anywhere the dog cant have full reign of. He always has to cuddle, so we cant really cuddly when I am at her condo because he gets jealous. When we are having a date night, he is on the floor with the dog, at night I wake up to him not in bed and Ill go looking for him and he is out in the living room crouched on the floor laying with the dog. Her ten year old is just the older Yorkie that is sick. Seriously, some of you dog owners are insane! Teach it right and it will learn respect and maybe he wont be jealous anymore if he is then leAve him. Hi, I really need help, My boyfriend and I got a puppy a couple of months ago. Anybody who tries to force someone to get rid of their dog is either a selfish idiot or a narcissist and we all know that you dont want any part of that crazy rollercoaster of a life. I have never allowed her on the bed Id read something about alpha dogs and I was trying to impress my alpha on her.that night I put her on a blanket on the side of me in the bed.I realized that I was afraid to care about anyone or anything againand that I had not taking anything into account about her behavior and needed to research how to care and train her. She had one nasty bulldog at first which drooled all the time and also snored and farted. And that is the same sort of excuses I hear from dog owners all the time hes just not used to other people or thats just the breed or thats just how he is. And the rest of us are expected to put up with it. Hes done it before, a few times Its always in the way ugh. They cry & come & stare at me. Everything revolves around this dog. Privacy Policy. Dog people will try to tell you that you shouldnt mind having your life covered in fur, but folks like you and me arent trying to hear that nonsense. One thing that many dog lovers dont understand is that the emotional energy that they invest in their animals robs them of some of the emotional energy that is so vital and necessary between a married couple. Because of that, your husband may think the do is far better off in your house free of little ones. Even today, shes now kept in the basement due to beginning stages of hip dysphasia, he only showers down there and takes her nightly after dinner a plastic plate of tidbits of our dinner to lick. My now husband and I began dating 3 years ago, he knew I had the dog, was fine with it, bought it toys, etc. Anyway, I walked downstairs to give him a phone call and find him on his knees next to her on the dog bed. Wrong prayer. Then I knew another little personality would enter my life to train, love, and cherish while they were with me. But Im stuck in my own little hell with this. I kennel my dog to punish hIm but my boyfriend is so hateful towards him and its making me resent him. Its a serious point of contention. Why was your ex not a good man as youve implied? Dump the bf and get with someone who lives your dog as much as you do! Should you have gotten the dog without consulting him? And I cannot say anything, I am always told to ignore it, hes fine. He once told me that my kids were not allowed to sleep on the couch but his dog can. I had a 4 hour commute to work total so I was very busy and am disgusted by picking up dog excrements. Chihuahuas ARE demonic little beasts. I didnt get any attention except when he asked whats for dinner. Should i be concerned about this? He said he didnt want to upset me but that now it was closer to being a reality with our move to the countryside, he couldnt deal with it. Ive always wanted them to be trained properly but my husband just wants to spoil them and do whatever they want. Why in an apartment (AND WHY WITH SMALL CHILDREN???). Dog nuts just dont get it. I love my Partner, I hate her dog. 6 Steps To Transition Puppy From Litter Box To Outside, Why Do Puppies Step In Their Own Poop? Hang in there. Its all about compromising and some women cant get everything they want just like men. My partner loves dogs as do I, so neither of us mind their presence. What makes it worse is that my furbaby just got diagnosed with eplisepy and is now costing us a little bit extra in medication (Im talking $20 a month, nothing drastic) but my partner feels the need to rave on about how my dogs fine and faking it. My SO has had this dog many years before me and my oldest came into the picture which I can understand but I can not understand this lack of control of this dog. I hate continuing to learn my lesson. I called her out on this and she got extremely defensive and proceeded to tell me how crazy I am. Theyre revealing their true colours now. I just dont know what to do. Investing some money on this is so worth it in this situation if you really wanna keep the dog, especially the dog has bitten someone already. My husband loves our dogs as much as I do. You are just as temporary as the dog no matter how well you would like to admit it. Hes pulled some curtains off the frame and we need to replace it. I just dont know what to do anymore. I wanted to leave so badly, but at the time had no job and nowhere to go. My advice is to really understand what dogs entail before cohabitation. He trained him to use a dog litter box & always kept him in a cage ( big outdoor sized cage that he kept in extra bedroom of his house) bc the dog was never actually house trainedpees everywhere, marks territory all over the place, poops on any rug he sees, charges after people, will bite if anyone touches his ears, will actually lay in his littler box full of pee & poop.the definition of nasty & disgusting! Privacy Policy. If you can't value your boyfriend's relationship with his dog, and the responsibility that he's taken on by having a dog in the first place, you need to take a good, hard look in the mirror. If so, that should happen anyway, but if your SO hates animals or has jealousy issues over your pet that is a big sign of future problems that have more to do with hat person than you or your pup/kitty/iguana/etc. In Peru, they smack them with a stick and then eat them. And at this point I dont know what to do. How long do puppy blues last and how to overcome? Maybe hes just adjusting to the new place. Beau never has accidents and is probably the most problem free dog I have ever owned. Professional training has to happen and if you dont have the money for it dont consider getting a pet with considering the likely hood youll find a significant other one day who might not like pets or want that responsibility even if he or she can tolerate them. Im not opposed to the dog, i actually like him, but the sleeping arrangement is troublesome for me. Hitting an animal is never acceptable a puppy is just like a baby it needs love and attenion he learns from play just like children. and its not like that. My bf always allowed his dog to sleep with him, then we moved in together and I said absolutely not. As long as Im content that equals not only survival but thriving as well. Dog stays off the furniture, gets her own doggie bed for the bedroom, and he sweeps everyday. Vilma, I dealt with that same garbage in my last relationship so I can relate. Basically, my girlfriend does not have the ability to create boundaries or is willing to instill some discipline with the dog. Occasionally if she was let inside too long with out going potty she would have an accident or knock over the trash.. He goes on and on about how he would never choose to have a dog. i even know of instances when couples had a kid that they were raised that the dog is their older brother or sister !! However, If the dog continues to do so without any improvement in behavior, that can be the reason why your husband/boyfriend wanna get rid of the dog. You are not crazy!!! It also shows a man how you may treat a child if you have one, thats not good. They need to sleep by themselves and be trained. Need help with your relationship? If it has gotten to that point, it really isnt about the dog, it is about the relationship. Instead, it is all about the dogs. 5. My fianc and I have been together for 8 years and engaged for 4 and a half of those 8 years. My dog sleeps in her bed until about 2-4 in the morning when it gets cold, she jumps into bed. I picked them up. Im not sure what to believe. We were supposed to go on a vacation when I came back. In 2015 she took a bullet for me in her flank when he pulled a gun on me while all of my Human. Relatives stood back in fear of their own lives. I am married 4 years and must admit that i have never had pets. If you are prioritizing the dog over your husband/boyfriend, you should get over yourself. Wow, what a slap in the face. You cant expect someone to clean up dog s*** and dog p*** everyday and live in a house that smells worse than a kennel! Its difficult for me to understand why anyone would stay in this type of environment. My lab was a terrible puppy he chewed up everything in sight. Its not worth it. I felt betrayed but chose to comprise and said she can be on the couch, but only on his side. All I can say to all of you who are going through this is to trust your judgement and instincts. Hell cry for my SO when were trying to enjoy a movie together. What should i do? What should I do? My husband has point blank said no more pets. 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